Sexy Stuff for Cyber Monday

November 26, 2022

Cyber Monday is this week! Here are some ideas to sexify the holidays!

Pornaments Sexy Santa – Pornaments has a great line of sexy/fun Christmas decor! A lot of different ones are available at this link:

Reindeer Nipple Pasties – and other styles like snowmen and polar bears –

Festive Thigh High Stockings – Thigh highs are always sexy! –

Make yourself the gift with this Bowknot Lingerie

Naughty, Nice, Kinky Monthly Five Year Calendar – Chocked full of sexy ideas for you and your partner –

TOY TEST – Realistic Glass Dildo

November 21, 2022

My first impression of this item was simply the weight. Even before I unboxed it, the weight of the package itself made me think perhaps something else was in the container as well. But once I unpacked it and and wrapped my hand around it, I had to plop it on my scale immediately. This toy has some serious mass to it! And length. And girth. Weighing in at over 1 pound 12 ounces, this is nine inches to reckon with!

That may not seem a lot of weight until you feel it in your hand and realize it is not exercise equipment (well, maybe a certain type of exercise 😉) but an item that is hand-made and very solid. There is no give to this toy like you would find in silicone or jelly-style dildos. This is one massive piece. So massive, even I struggled with it.

This is not a toy for beginners.

Maybe it was too rigid. I have been known to say I get disappointed in some silicone or rubber toys that just seem to collapse under the weight of insertion, but this toy has no give whatsoever. It is relentless in its trajectory. It stretches you until it’s as far in as it can go. I was not able to take the whole thing, even after several tries. And it’s not not just fantastic anally, it’s as good vaginally, strong and stiff.

There should be more toys as unyielding as this.

The glass makes it chilled to the touch, but can also be warmed in water to make it more life-like. It’s veined, which each item being slightly different since they are handmade. It also has.a 3.75” base to grip which does help. If you have a large enough harness, it can be used in your strap-on. However, I did find the base a little wobbly when set on a flat surface. It did seem to skitter around, the glass being slippery itself. The bottom could be flatter to help contradict this. I did find placing it on a towel to help a bit, but it was still slightly off-balance.

Made from lead-free borosilicate glass, so it is dishwasher safe and safe to use with all lubricants be they oil, water, or silicone based.

This toy ranks high with me because it is a challenge, and one I have yet to master. It’s ease of use, ease of cleaning, as well as it’s versatility, gives it a grade of 4.85 for me. If it would have been less wobbly sitting flat or had a very strong (detachable) suction cup, this would be a perfect toy.

To view or purchase this toy, please visit

The unboxing video alone can be found on my new YouTube channel (created for unboxings only) –

Full testing video, along with all my other toy tests, will be on my Pornhub Sunday November 27 –

Exxxotica Wrap Up, Part Two

November 9, 2022

One thing I liked about Exxxotica was the number of seminars they had scheduled. One thing I did not like about Exxxotica was the unannounced changes to the seminar schedules.

There were two large rooms set aside for these classes. Only about 1/3 of the space of these rooms were used for seating. These talks were not well attended unfortunately. I would have liked to see more big-name professionals giving the talks rather than just anyone. It seemed anyone could sign up ahead of time to talk. And the ones I happened to see were not well prepared.

There were a few that were intriguing. One gentleman, a Master called Daddy Heff, gave an intriguing demonstration on “Heart Space Activation for BDSM Play.” With the help of his assistant, he was able to show how a don can still connect with his/her sub in order to achieve a deep intimacy. To prove this was not a fluke, he then chose a volunteer from the audience and was able to reduce her to emotional tears by touch and tone.

Other speakers were not as well prepared. One class I waited for was canceled totally (without notice – the speaker did not show at all) and another just turned into a Q and A with little substance. I have been to many panels at other cons, and have presented at a couple comic book cons myself, so I know how hard scheduling can be; but I feel if you sign up to do a panel, you should have something prepared. Also I think you should have to be vetted in order to present. A couple of presenters seemed to be there solely for their own ego and had nothing significant to add.

On Sunday I came to the expo more in “fun mode” – to shop and try out some things. I dressed more casually in a lace top and leggings and in return was paid more attention. One of the 420 friendly dealers was very caught up in me and we spoke at length about our businesses until he was called away. It made me feel proud to be recognized as a part of the industry.

There was a little activity over in the BDSM area so I wandered through there a bit. I watched how one could be freed from the shackles of a broken body as a wheelchair-bound woman was rigged and lifted from her chair during a shibari demonstration. She was able to float and be free with the help of bondage. This struck me as a very strong affirmation – the word “bondage” often conveys a negative connotation of being bound and controlled; but here the woman was unrestrained and liberated. It was very fascinating, and made me rethink my views on BDSM. (I am intrigued by the toys and limit testing, but I do not need the mind games of a Master/sub exchange, especially not 24/7. (My opinion only, I know many will cringe when I say “mind games”.)

I felt a little emboldened by that display so I asked one of the sellers in the area about flogging. He explained the different floggers he had on display – some were soft, some were more “thuddy”, and some were harsh – and then asked if I would like a demonstration. I agreed as long as it was easy as I was slightly nervous. He again asked for my consent before applying the flogger for a few moments. He made sure to only hit my backside. The flogging in my back itself did nothing for me, but I quite liked it on my ass and wished it could have gone on longer. (Thank you Poppa Scott at Flogger Knows Best –

I wandered around the floor, taking in the sites and chatting with various vendors. They seemed much more open to me in my Fun Mode than when I was in Work Mode. One vendor, MotorBunny ( offered a live demo ride on one of their sex machines. It was quite innovative and worked as a video game. The game itself was like Flappy Bird – you go up, the machine vibes one way, you go down, it lowered gear, and if you crashed you definitely felt it. It was distracting to try to concentrate on the game while having all that horsepower between your legs. I would love to add one to my collection! You could also set it to sync with music and other options. Several other models were also available. And they gave out lighted bunny ears as an incentive.

The rest of the time I just walked around and observed. I spoke to one lady, Addis, between panels and got to know this wonderful person. She, like me, is in a ping-distance relationship so we commiserated about that for a bit. I met others on the floor, tried some wonderful infused popcorn by Mia’s Heart, Hemp Life ( – I need to order some more! It was so good!) There was also an axe throwing area, but I didn’t try it.

All in all, it was a good trip. I did not get to see my guy due to extenuating circumstances, but I knew that it was a long shot anyway. He did chat with me on my drive home so I still felt it was a productive trip. Whether my inquiries and cards I handed out will result in an uptick of readers or listeners is something I am looking forward to discovering. Is it something I need to go to again? No, not really, unless I was an invited guest. I would like to compare this to a more fetish themed show (I found out there is a small fetish con somewhat near me so maybe someday I’ll be able to attend it for comparison.) Maybe if I come back, I will do my own panel and you can bet I’ll be prepared!

TOY TEST – Uranus Rainbow Fantasy Dildo

November 6, 2022

Monster and fantasy dildos are trendy. The Uranus fantasy dildo by Sohimi is aptly named as it is otherworldly.

Clocking in at almost nine inches long (over six inches insertable), as well as an insertable 2.16 inches wide, this toy will challenge even the most trained anus. The sculpt has many textures and convolutions that will stretch and shrink you over and over.

The overall shape is highlighted by the curved top which also has a bit of a point to it. This makes it easy, if not a tiny bit painful, to insert. It then extends to a good 1.6 inch width almost immediately.

The toy, too, has a good spring to it. It will hold up to any amount of pressure put onto it. I do prefer them a little firmer, but this one does pop back.

The base also provides an added test with its spikes. If you are lucky enough to settle this all the way in, the barbs will bite into your skin. This additional sensation can be teeth-grinding when you’re already spread and perhaps even in pain.

The base, too, features a suction cup which actually holds well for a change. So many suction cups are just not up to the task. This one, however, does it’s job well. I think the weight of this toy – almost a full pound – helps keep is steady. The rainbow color makes it attractive for everyone.

All in all, I give this toy a 4.6 out of 5. It was just a little bit big, even for me. But it’s a challenge I look forward to conquering.

This toy can be viewed and purchased if you Click here. Be sure to use promo code DESTERA at check-out to save 20%.

As always, tests of the toys featured in my blog can be found on m6 Pornhub account:

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Exxxotica Wrap Up Part 1

October 31, 2022

It’s been a few days now since I returned from New Jersey and Exxxotica. I needed to rest up and reflect on the experience. I still can’t really wrap my head around it, but not because of how “out there” it was; rather because of how normal it seemed.

I used to go to a lot of comic book conventions. I have been to San Diego Comic Con, New York Comic Con, Dragon*Con, C2E2 and many more. I saw things at those cons which were more shocking than many things I saw here.

But there were a few things that shocked me, but more because I couldn’t see myself doing them. Perhaps I was more impressed with the tenacity of the performers.

The one act I saw that really stood out to me was the woman masturbating with a wand on the floor. She was not behind a booth, where many performers were, but right out in the open, though behind a velvet rope. She was live camming at the time, too, which made it even a bit more fascinating. Of course there was the no complete nudity rule at the con, so she had panties on (I think. She did have a short skirt if nothing else.) And she did seem to be enjoying herself. I think it was more that she was right out in the open than anything else that startled me.

Personally I hate live camming. I find it very awkward. And I don’t like being told what to do. When I first started in this business I did some on a free site, and while it was nice to hear how good my tits are, overall I just felt uncomfortable and awkward. My guy and I don’t even face chat, as he feels the same way. I am fine making videos because I feel more in charge of the situation. But, as always, do what makes you feel good.

Exxxotica started on Friday, and Friday was free for the ladies, but I did not attend that day. it started later in the afternoon and I was still driving in. The convention opened later in the day from what I am used to with comic book conventions, so I had a little extra time. This was a minor inconvenience on Sunday, however, when checkout at my hotel was several hours earlier and I had to find something to do 7th, doors opened.

Walking in, the first thing I saw was a bikini babe on a swing suspended from the ceiling. It was a regular playground swing, not a se- swing of any kind. I really liked that aesthetic, giving the area a fun feel. But the swing used a lot of room and it was not used later in the evening nor on Sunday when it was more crowded.

Against the front wall was an area for performers which showcased a pole dance/monkey bars type contraption for both male and female dancers. This space was used only moderately and could have been utilized much better. It would have been a great showcase for some light BDSM demonstrations as there was more to it than what I have pictured below. I don’t believe it was in use at all on Sunday.

I wandered around the show floor a bit. I was in work mode, dressed in my “uniform” of a yellow polo shirt with my company logo. I was easily ignored, which is kind of what I wanted. I was there to observe on Saturday. Sunday would be my more fun day.

A lot of porn stars had their tables and most were sponsored by their distributors. Brazzers had a huge area up front and center. Later in the day and into the night, the line of people wanting to get photos or autographs of their favorites would grow. Other areas featured celebrities such as Stormy Daniels, and Tiny Texie, the world’s smallest proportioned stripper. (I loved her hair!)

The line for the Brazzers booth
Stormy Daniels booth. I never did see her
Tiny Texie and her goddess hair

There were a lot of vendors selling toys, photos, videos, and weed – lots of weed. The convention center also hosted a 420 convention a few weeks before this one. Marijuana is now legal in New Jersey so there were a lot of people taking advantage of that.

As I wandered around, I made sure to leave my business card and bookmarks at strategic locations. One place I found was a see-saw (again keeping with the playground vibe) with dildos attached. It had a holder for cards so I made sure to leave mine there. I did see a few people using the see saw over the weekend, but everyone used the dildos to grab onto with their hands rather than straddle them.

My card in the see saw

There was a performance stage set up in the back with a large area for viewing. There was also an elevated seating platform for attendees who purchased VIP passes. Throughout the weekend different performers and a few contests happened on stage. Tiny Texie did her striptease to the largest crowd I saw there. There was also a performer called Pollyannie who made works of art live on stage. She used her entire body as the tool. Her work was heavily influenced by the music accompanying her. It was part dance, part performance. Her works were then for sale afterwards at her table.

Pollyannie getting spanked after one of her performances

There was a lot happening on that stage – rope demonstrations, fetish and kink, pole dancing, etc. I was pleased to see a BBW/curvy girl fashion show. There were quite a few BBW/curvy models with booths also. I was glad to see the representation.

BBW/curvy representation

In the next segment I’ll go into what I did Sunday and into the seminars that were also part of my Exxxotica experience.